Parenting the Children

Last week, I got an opportunity to listen in a meeting where speaker was talking about parenting the children. The workshop was very interesting and important too, especially for the parents who have children at home. Every parent is responsible for the growth of the children until they reach 25. Your child will remain a child until he/she reaches 25. It is scientifically proved that one's brain would not mature until 25. Therefore it is unlikely to say that they are capable of deciding something before 25. ( Dr. Barbara- recent study from  Harvard University)

My intention here is a bit different. I want to take you to the other side of story. Two incidents! These both are real and there is something to be learned. 

A.        I met a family in couple of days ago, and they have a bright son. In fact the son is very smart in everything. My wife and I went to visit them. The son was doing school homework. You might be aware that the children are very sharp in putting things in the brain. As I was flipping through his copy, I came across a sentence where he had to fill the blanks.

1. This............Beauty the Kitten.  (is, am, are)

He had written "is" in the blank. I said, “See, can you kindly make some correction on the sentence. The sentence is not correct in grammar. I think it is misprinted in the textbook. It's better if you cut the word ‘Beauty.’” It does not give sense when "Beauty" and "Kitten" are together as they both are noun. The boy replied, "No uncle, do not do any correction here." “This is answered by my teacher. How can it be wrong if my teacher says it right.” I understood  what he wanted to convey. For children, teachers cannot commit a mistake. Therefore, the boy is innocent here. I told his parents. See, you have to go and talk to his class teacher. Children must not learn wrong things. I am sure that the teacher might have overlooked this error. I was more surprised to hear from the papa of the family. “Why shall I correct this? If he writes what is written in the paper, he can secure marks.  What we need is the mark. 

I was shut up then. Marks and Ranks! No failure! We cannot digest if our children fail in some areas. As if failure is not a part of life.  Our parents want their children either to be  doctors or engineers. That's all. I wonder why they do not see opportunities other than these two professions.

B.        The second was different. It's about the educated parents. The husband is educated in the family. Both involve in the office woks, therefore they really do not have time for the kids. Mostly they are busy in week days. Their children have different stories to share. Father does not have time to flip through the children books. Once I met the son in the ground playing cricket around 6pm. I was passing by the child's home and asked parents about the son. Mama proudly said that the son has gone to the tuition class. Then suddenly I remembered the son playing cricket in just a minute ago. I told this to the family. I came back home and I discussed with my wife. Children are best instrument to move the country. And it is up to  parents to show the way that they want in future. By knowing this truth, why in the world parents do not even sit together with their sons and daughters for an hour.

Let us not forget that God has appointed parents to be a caretaker. If we fail in doing our job here, we would be failed in every sectors of the ministry.   

 

1. Remember if the children did not get answers from YOU (about their doubts, questions during the teenage time),  they will end up learning something very immoral from the world. 

2. Children’s brain is very connective and it is the right time to give right things. Are we giving God's word during this time?

3. Your children should get proper opportunity to explore. You are to play role of motivator and guider, not an dictator.

4. You are the best model for the children. You first do what you expect from the children.

5. Spent an hour with them every day until they become 25. Do they trust you in that level? 

Good Day!